This all happened a long long time ago…
Fuckery? Nah.
It’s a small world I guess. People in the same basic location, that like the same basic things are bound to run across each other…or “into each other” at some point right? Yeah, sure. Two different people you’ve dated, that your friend has also “dated”…maybe just fucked around with a good bit. Who cares…?
Some people think it’s petty to get upset about dating a good friends Ex, some don’t. Those that do have several versions of the limitations that can apply here. I’ve heard about certain amounts of time between the breakup as a measurement of it being ok, or the they only dated for a short time measurement, the he broke up with her or she broke up with him, it’s a one time thing…. There’s a bunch out there.
I think it’s rather interesting how things pan out some times, and I certainly get a good laugh at how some of them have…but they’ve never really upset me unless it’s under super shady circumstances. I wouldn’t want some of my friends dating some of my ex’s for health reasons on both of their parts…but eh, whatever. It’s a thing. It’s their thing.
Well…the first time this happened to me, a good friend of mine was introduced to a fantastic fucking person I dated way back. It didn’t work out for us because geography. Nothing bad. Very logical.
Anyways.
This friend, met this Ex of mine. Things clicked. Good for them. No worries. I didn’t think much of it. It had been years and years since “us”. They had fun…no harm or it was what it was…or whatever maybe people call just fucking around. Cool? Sure. Really.
Not too much later…
So, I worked at this place where you could basically make your own hours. Moving company. They get jobs, and you can kind of pic and choose which of the jobs you want to work on. They need dependable people, on the cheap. Good money for young folks who are home for summer break. I get this friend a job. He didn’t have a car at the time I don’t think. Mostly because….let’s just say….the front of his car didn’t get along with some dude crossing the street. The guy lived, no big. I think that guy lived….hmmm.
Anyways…
I give this friend a ride to and from work from time to time, and one time I remember giving him a ride maybe for this reason…we start talking, catching up, well he starts in on how much fun college is and parties…blah blah blah…”also man I didn’t know if you knew or not but your ex came up to party recently and stuff happened with us….”
….descriptive word(s) intentionally left out.
I mean….I personally wouldn’t go in to the details he did. Hell I might not have done it, or maybe just said things differently maybe with a little more tact. Maybe I wouldn’t have.
So I almost wreck off the road.
This person and I hadn’t been out of a relationship very long….I guess I was just shocked, I don’t remember being all that angry. I was still feeling down because things had ended. Even though it was my choice to end things. Maybe I still had some mental connection to her left over…Who knows.
She told me about it a few weeks later. Told me they were doing whatever. Maybe it was a thing. Hmmm…
Oddly enough. some years later I married that person. And some years after that I divorced her. Things didn’t work out again. That’s a long story.
Well…anyways…
I think that was the last car ride I gave him. I’m not sure why but we haven’t talked much since that all went down. We never had words or discussed it much after. We hung out a few times. Maybe a handful of times. We’re still friends. Hell I was in his wedding awhile back. No hard feelings.
I guess what I’ve been thinking about is…
I don’t know if it’s one of those possession or controlly type things, sure seems like it, but I generally don’t care. I can’t figure out why I would. But I’ve heard a bunch of bullshit reasons and it makes me wonder why exactly do people want to justify themselves doing whatever the hell they want with people that want to do it with them, and why does it matter to people they used to be involved with exactly? I guess we’re all still considered property. Eh mostly just women though I guess? But don’t quote the bible on that. For sure….especially do not read anything like umm..
Deuteronomy 22:23-24/21:10-14, Exodus 20:17/21:7-11/22:16-17
Genesis 2:20-22/3:16, Colossians 3:18
1 Timothy 2:13-14, Ephesians 5:22-24
1 Corinthians 11:3-9, Judges 5:30
Because…people….err women are property. Or something er other for men.
Well one of the bibles, or versions or some of a portion of a version that’s the not so important one about history or something. Unless you have 50 gold, are level 14 and have goats to spare, or wanna get hitched. Or something…
This probably is a bad comparison to property because rapey property stuffs. But kind of because rapey property stuffs maybe. Maybe not.
Narnia.
Well...Anyways 